MS Love and Care, as Only a Superwife Can Provide


Thoughts of love were brought to the forefront of many people’s minds on Valentine’s Day, which is widely celebrated by couples both young and not so young. They usually buy cards and enjoy romantic dinners.

In our case, Feb. 14 also is Lisa’s birthday. So, to me, that is more important. We went out for her birthday meal — in fact two — lunch and dinner. And very good they were, too.

loveBut that got me thinking, Lisa is my wife and, as I have multiple sclerosis, also is my carer. However, she says that whatever she does as my carer is only what any loving wife would do for her husband. And, while I can see that is true to a certain extent, it actually goes further.

There can be little doubt that wives, or husbands, of people with MS do have to contend with more than those of people without a disability. Lisa, for example:

  • Provides extra support while I walk a little outdoors;
  • Gets my wheelchair in and out of the car;
  • Helps me to get up after a fall;
  • Deals with extra laundry if my bladder problems cause an accident;
  • Takes full responsibility for my medications, ensuring I take them at the right times;
  • Does all cooking, because I cannot do so safely;
  • Does all cleaning and other housework, because I cannot stand up long enough to help. (I do what I can sitting down);
  • Helps me shower, especially below my knees;
  • Helps me to dress as I cannot fasten buttons, tie shoelaces or do anything that requires manual dexterity;
  • Is my personal manicurist and podiatrist, taking care of my fingernails and toenails, because my weak left hand is incapable of cutting the nails of my right hand, and I cannot bend forward enough to deal with my toenails.

Lisa maintains she does nothing special and it is all part of being my wife. She says she does it because she loves me. Well, I can see her point, but I also have my own opinion: The additional work of a carer requires something more than a wife; it needs a Superwife. Yes, it involves love too, the type of love that involves being prepared to do anything. Lisa is such a Superwife with that deep, committed love. I am so blessed to have her by my side.

How does your wife, husband or partner care for you? I’d love to hear and share your story.

This article, written by me, was first published by Multiple Sclerosis News Today.

strap-new is the personal website of Ian Franks, who is Managing Editor (columns division) of BioNews Services. BioNews is owner of 50 disease/disorder-specific news and information websites – including MS News Today. Ian has enjoyed a successful career as a journalist, from reporter to editor, in the print media. During that career he gained a Journalist of the Year award in his native UK. He was diagnosed with MS in 2002 but continued working until mobility problems forced him to retire early in late 2006. He now lives in the south of Spain. Besides MS, Ian is also able to write about both epilepsy and cardiovascular matters from a patient’s perspective and is a keen advocate on mobility and accessibility issues.


2 thoughts on “MS Love and Care, as Only a Superwife Can Provide

  1. It is wonderful how you appreciate your wife. My husband has MS, and we have eight children. Four of those children live with us and are teenagers and younger. My husband, unfortunately, does not appreciate all of the changes and sacrifices that our family is dealing with. He only appreciates his coworkers. Our children and I are treated very poorly by my husband. He just expects us all to do everything for him. He does nothing to take care of himself (medication, PT, counseling) despite his doctor’s advice. MS has destroyed our family.


    • Lisa and I have every sympathy with you and your family. MS affects everyone differently but I am grateful for what I can do. We hope for better times ahead for you.


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