I never cease to be surprised by the willingness of people to offer a helping hand.
Regular readers will know that, because of mobility problems resulting from multiple sclerosis, I use a wheelchair.
Several times recently when out and about in my wheelchair, while Lisa stayed at home, members of the public have been read to offer assistance.
It is never strange when store staff lend a helping hand but I really don’t expect it from fellow shoppers – but that is what has happened.
In a local supermarket, other shoppers have:
- Unloaded my shopping cart;
- Helped pack the goods into the bags;
- Taken my shopping to my car;
- Placed the bags into my car.
On Friday, I needed to go to the bank. Not a difficult job in most circumstances, even when using a wheelchair – but it is not so easy in our local town, Cuevas del Almanzora. Here, in sunny Andalucía in the south of Spain, we have to overcome problems associated with accessibility ramps.
Access can benefit from a helping hand
They do exist but the engineers who make them often miss the fact that they are supposed to drop down enough to make a smooth transition from road to sidewalk. Here, the ramps often leave a small kerb (curb in American English) to overcome. Then there are thoughtless drivers who park across the ramp, making it useless.
Of course, there are places where accessibility rams just don’t exist. Outside the bank being one such example. So, on Friday, I chose the lowest possible step up and, by tilting my wheelchair backwards, managed it. But a passing motorcyclist stopped and rushed to help – perhaps unnerved by the awkward backwards tilt. Still, he didn’t leave m side until I was safely in the bank.
Returning to my car after venturing out, it is relatively easy for me to place the wheelchair inside but it does require some effort. And that’s why, I am always grateful when a passer-by offers to help. Yes, I could persevere and complete the job by myself and, more often, it is what I do. However, when help is offered, I don’t want to appear rude by turning down their kindness.
My desire for independence does not stop me accepting offers of assistance. Do you feel the same way?
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2 thoughts on “A helping hand so readily offered to wheelchair-users”
I have secondary progressive MS, but I’m also female so I’ve found many people willing to help which I’ve attributed to a mix of chivalry and consideration. Wherever the motivation comes from it is always welcome so I thank them warmly for their assistance.
I feel the same way but It was not always like that. I believe it takes some time to fully accept you need assistance